SMM 019: Connection Through Trials + The Power of Vulnerability to Bring Women Together || Danelle Beckstrand

Today my guest is Danelle Beckstrand. Danelle is married to Tyler and they enjoy traveling and watching movies. Danelle loves connection with others and started a blog called We Call it a Journey as a way to find a support system and open up about her struggles with infertility.  She has learned we don’t face the same trials, but we have so much in common with each other that connects us together. 

Show Recap

If I could use one word to describe what this episode is about, it would be “connection.” Danelle shares about her and her husband’s 5 1/2 year journey through infertility. Through her own experiences she has learned that “pain is pain and hurt is hurt.” We don’t all face the same challenges in life, but we are connected a lot more than we think. 

We discuss how to avoid feeling like we have no control in a challenge and how we always have a choice. Danelle shares how her trials with infertility are similar to the trials of motherhood and how woman can unite and help each other.

Infertility has brought heartache and loneliness to Danelle, but she knows isolation is not the answer. Danelle believes connection comes from vulnerability and sharing. “Humanity is connected through trial.”

I really loved our conversation about how to help someone who is struggling. Danelle said, “Compassion is about being observant.” And Danelle completed shifted my perspective on the word “brokenness” and shares how she pictures God molding her and shaping her into the person He wants her to be.

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Instagram: www.instagram.com/wecallitajourney/
Website: www.wecallitajourney.com

Check out Danelle’s shop. All proceeds go to help Danelle and Tyler raise funds for IVF treatments. I have the gold Journey necklace and I love it!

Quote by Sheri Dew: “Motherhood is more than bearing children. … It is the essence of who we are as women.”

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SMM 017: Life as a Military Family + Appreciating Motherhood After Infertility + Trusting God’s Timing || Noralee Jones

My guest in episode 17 of the Spiritually Minded Mom podcast is Noralee Jones. Her husband is a naval officer, they have three children under the age of 4 and they just moved to a new state. She goes by Mrs. Navy Mama on social media and writes on her blog about motherhood and life as a military family. Her motherhood story includes infertility, parenting on her own while her husband is away, moving frequently and trusting in God’s timing.

Show Recap

In this episode, Noralee shares about the six year struggle she and her husband went through to have children and what she learned from that time in her life. She describes what it’s like to be a military family, which means moving about every two years and having her husband away more than half of the time.

Noralee gives her top three things for getting through the hard days of overwhelm and loneliness. (Hint: one of them is chocolate!) She also talks about her take on self-care and how it’s not selfish for a mom to spend time away doing things she loves.

To combat the loneliness and isolation of motherhood, Noralee recommends “finding your tribe” and “joining the group.”  To other mothers who struggle and feel alone, Noralee’s advice is to not judge what you think people are thinking about you because you don’t know what they are thinking.

At the end of this episode, Noralee talks about the “game changer in her testimony on faith” in motherhood.  I was surprised to find that it wasn’t infertility. Initially, this trial made her feel selfish and terrible but ultimately led her to trust Heavenly Father and His timing.

Noralee sees God’s hand in her motherhood in the ordinary, everyday things and knows her work as a mother is divine.

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Instagram: www.instagram.com/mrsnavymama/
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Website: www.mrsnavymama.com

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SMM 007: Turning to God Through Infertility, Adoption and Miscarriage || Kay West

On turning to God, Kay West had this to say:

“When I  turned to Him, I found that I am a daughter of God and that is worth so much. Nothing about me is broken. He sent me to this earth at this time with the body that I have for a reason. He put me on my path in life for a reason and whatever that reason is, it’s perfect because He wanted me to do something that only I could do.”

Show Recap

I haven’t met many mothers who have been through as much as Kay West has on the journey of motherhood. Her story has a happy ending with the adoption of two long-awaited and beautiful children. However, Kay also knows the heartache of infertility, miscarriage and the grief of a third adoption that did not happen. Her story is so heavy and full of trials that I was completely caught off guard by how happy I felt during this interview. Even as she shares the most painful moments of her life, her hope and joy shine through and I walked away feeling so uplifted by her words.

We talk about her expectations of motherhood and the fun way she deals with strangers who ask why her children don’t resemble her Asian background. Kay also emotionally shares her anger toward God and her ups and downs in her relationship with Him. During infertility, her husband told her one thing that changed her perspective. He said, “You can either turn away from Heavenly Father or you can turn toward Him.” Kay knew she had a choice. It wasn’t easy but she chose to turn toward God.

Though her daughter has special needs that are easy to see, Kay has learned we all have something that makes us not whole. She knows her trials of motherhood are not a punishment and she isn’t broken. Kay shares a beautiful message of hope for any mother who feels she is less than another mother in the eyes of God.

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Show Notes

Follow Kay:

Blog: threetoquesandatiara.com
Instagram: Instagram.com/threetoquesandatiara
Facebook: Facebook.com/threetoquesandatiara

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