SMM 028: Not Comparing The Way You Love + Owning Your Spiritual Gifts || Tessa Brown

Tessa Brown is my guest today on the podcast. She’s a wife and a mom to two boys ages 2 and 4. She’s also an artist and has a beautiful Instagram account where she shows her incredible talent of artwork depicting motherhood and Jesus Christ. She has learned to embrace the spiritual gifts God has given her and has found a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ as she pleads for help in becoming the mother He wants her to be.

Show Recap

Tessa relates the story of Moana facing the lava monster and how this story helped her in motherhood to know who she is and who God wants her to be. Tessa tells how she found painting early in motherhood to give her a place to focus so she could go back to her family and give more.

Growth Mindset

Tessa has developed a growth mindset about motherhood and shares some doable ways she has developed that mindset in her life.

Her advice to other moms is to figure out what makes you feel love for yourself, for God and for your kids and then to be aware of those things and seek them out. Tessa says to notice the times when you feel love and focus on those things.

Love

For Tessa, what always speaks the loudest in motherhood to her is to just love her children. She knows the only thing that lasts is love. What motivate is love. “Christ makes me feel that I am more than I am. … I want my kids to feel that from me.”

Tessa shares beautifully how she developed a deeper relationship with the Savior. She used to picture Christ standing over her shaking his head as a disappointed coach. Now she views Him as a cheerleader and friend who encourages her throughout her day, no matter what has happened.

Tessa feels it is important not to compare the way you show love to the way another mother shows love. “You have a divine way to love your kids.” Own it.

Artwork

Through her artwork, Tessa hopes mothers will feel love and that they are enough.

“I would love my art to bring mothers back to those moments when love was really all that matters because I feel that really is all that matters. If you do a lot of things wrong, but you get the love part right, I think you and your kids will have a great relationship. That’s what we’re striving for.”

Spiritual Gifts

Throughout the interview, Tessa talked about spiritual gifts and how a mother can use the gifts she’s been given in motherhood.  We had a great discussion about owning your gifts and not being afraid to claim them. Tessa shares a great insight on using what you’ve been given and why don’t have to be “everything” to your kids.

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Show Notes

At the beginning of the episode I shared how YOU can be part of a future episode of the podcast. Each month I will be asking listeners to share their answer to a specific question about motherhood and spirituality. If you want to participate in the November episode, here’s how to do it:

  1. At your convenience, call this number 480-525-7145.
  2. Leave a message starting with your name and where you are from. For example, “Hi, this is Darla from Arizona.”
  3. Give your answer to the question: How have you seen and felt God as your partner in motherhood?”
  4. Feel free to share a specific story or experience. Please keep your answer to under 3 minutes so I can share as many answers as possible.
  5. Submit your answer/message by Sunday, October 28th.

If you’re hearing or reading this after the deadline, call the number anyway to hear the current question and give your answer.

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Instagram: www.instagram.com/tessaleeart/
Website: tessaleeart.com

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SMM 025: Mothering a Child with Mental Illness || Amanda Louder

Today’s topic of raising a child with mental illness is one I have wanted to talk more about for a while. I have reached out to a few people to share their experiences, however it hasn’t been right for them to tell their stories. Fortunately, Amanda Louder answered my prayers by reaching out to me to share her experience raising a child with a mental illness.

Show Recap

Amanda is a wife of 6 years to her husband and together they are blending a family of five children ranging in age from 19-10. In her years as a mother, she has learned to let go of control and enjoys seeing her children learning who they truly are.

Amanda and I dive in and talk about the challenges she has faced since her 16-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Bipolar II at the age of 8. She explains what this diagnosis means and how it affects her daughter and her family in their day-to-day life.

Mental illness and especially a child with mental illness can have a negative stigma in our society. Amanda talks about how the specific things she has done to educate people around her, advocate for her daughter and teach her daughter to advocate for herself.

If you are struggling with a child with mental illness, Amanda gives practical first steps you can take to help your child.

Amanda has been able to turn to God to help her with this mothering challenge. She has found that reading the Book of Mormon everyday has brought her peace. Amanda recognizes that reading the scriptures daily hasn’t taken the challenges away but rather given her the tools she needs to deal with the trials.

She also shares how she has used the atonement of Jesus Christ to help her as a mother. Amanda recognizes the many ways God has guided her, put people in her path and answered her prayers.

At the end of this episode, I have a bonus for you. Amanda talks about what she shares on her own podcast, Live from Love, about marriage, divorce and relationships. Her podcast has great content for anyone but especially for those struggling in marriage.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Amanda:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/amandaloudercoaching/
Website: amandalouder.com
Podcast: Live From Love

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More Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast episodes that deal with mental illness:

Episode 1: Welcome to the Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast (My story of helping my son who was diagnosed with anxiety.)
Episode 10: Being Open About Mental Illness in Motherhood + When You Don’t Know if God is Your Partner || Ally Hayward

SMM 022: Accepting God’s Plan + Overcoming Feeling Unworthy Before God || Reagan Ogle

Episode 22 of The Spiritually Minded Mom podcast is my interview with Reagan Ogle. I came across Reagan’s podcast, The Luckiest Mom, when I was doing research to start my podcast.  Reagan knows about accepting God’s plan for her life. She believes one of the greatest challenges of motherhood is overcoming feeling unworthy before God because it keeps mothers from connecting with Him.  She is relatable, a full of light and a huge advocate for motherhood. I know you are going to love the things she shares in this interview.

In the interview we dive in and talk about what a perfect mom day would look like for Reagan as well as how she gets through when the hard days hit.

Reagan has a unique way of viewing her children as “scientists.” We discuss what this means to her and how it affects the way she interacts with her children.

When Reagan was young, she had her life all planned out, but God had plans that were different from hers. She shares how she learned to accept God’s plan by saying, “My plan would have been harder in different ways but God’s plan prepared me for what I need to be today.”

One of my favorite parts of this interview was when Reagan and I discussed guilt and feeling unworthy before God. Reagan has some great advice for overcoming both.

Finally, we discuss how we can connect with each other, as women, and how we can connect with God by being vulnerable and sharing our lives and our stories.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Reagan:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/okreag/
Website: TheLuckiestMom.com

I mentioned in the episode that I met Reagan at the SALT Retreat. You can learn more about SALT by going here and listen to episode 15 of the podcast to hear my interview with SALT Retreat founder, Elise Curtis.

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SMM 021: Chasing Your Dreams + Turning to God in Post-Partum Depression || Amanda Anderson

My guest for episode 21 is Amanda Anderson. Amanda is an artist and has a business, Sketched and Sealed, painting personalized artwork. She is a wife and mom to three children ages 6, 3 and 10 months. She believes in chasing your dreams and is currently pursuing a degree in architecture. Amanda recently shared on her Instagram account about the extreme post-partum depression she experienced after her second child.  She has a beautiful story about how an involuntary admission to a mental hospital helped her turn to God as well as reach out to those around her who were also struggling. God helped her come out of the darkness she felt, and I am excited to share part of her motherhood story on the podcast.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Amanda:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/sketchedandsealed/
Website: www.etsy.com/shop/SketchedandSealed

Amanda mentioned the Personal Progress program as something that helped her during her stay in a mental health hospital. Personal Progress is an achievement program for young women in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Go here to learn more.

We mentioned this quote by Thomas S. Monson, ““The present is here. Live in it.” You can read more by going here.

Amanda highly recommends the book The Mother in Me by Kathryn Soper as a resource for all moms as it helped her greatly during her battle with post-partum depression.

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SMM 020: What I’m Learning About Following the Spirit + Making Connections in Ministering

Welcome to the 20th episode of the Spiritually Minded Mom podcast. Today’s episode is not the usual interview format. Instead, I recorded a solo episode  sharing some of my thoughts about something “spiritually minded” that’s been on my mind a lot lately–ministering.

In the first half of the episode, I share clips of three previous episodes with Alie Jones (episode 2), Julie Monroe (episode 8) and Noralee Jones (episode 17) that illustrate how these guests have received help from those around them. One of the best things all the guests I have interviewed have taught me is how to better serve others.

And that brings us to ministering. The second half of this episode is my real thoughts about the call we received in my church to step it up in how we serve others and to truly follow the example of Jesus Christ by ministering.  I don’t sugar coat my feelings and experiences. Learning to minister has been hard for me, so you’ll hear my struggles.  I have a long way to go, but I also share what I’ve learned so far.

Ministering is not one-size-fits-all. We can each come to know what ministering looks like for us as individuals as we seek God’s Spirit and ask Him for guidance.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

I mentioned scripture cards I purchased to give away. The cards are from Courtney Casper and you can find them in her shop here.

If you would like to listen to the full episodes of the clips played during this episode, here are the links:

SMM 002: Navigating Loss, Special Needs and Fostering as a Young Mom || Alie Jones
SMM 008: Dealing with Cancer + Motherhood By Focusing on What is Most Important || Julie Monroe
SMM 017: Life as a Military Family + Appreciating Motherhood After Infertility + Trusting God’s Timing || Noralee Jones

To learn more about ministering and what members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are being asked to do, read the following talks:

Ministering by President Russell M. Nelson
Be With and Strengthen Them by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
Ministering as the Savior Does by Sister Jean B. Bingham

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