SMM 073: Widowhood + Cancer With a Focus on Jesus||Valerie Cuevas

Valerie Cuevas has maintained her focus on Jesus despite the many ups and downs she has experienced in her life.

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After being a pseudo-single mother with a husband going through medical residency, Valerie suddenly found herself facing her husband’s terminal illness and death.

She was diagnosed with breast cancer, her second time battling the disease, just six months after her husband’s passing. Valerie is now remarried and blending a family of six children. She continues to see her role as a mother shifting and changing.

Valerie tells how she has learned to embrace change and let go of expectations.

She talks about how her focus on Jesus helped her as a single mother. Even though she couldn’t always pinpoint the ways He was helping her, she knew He was there.

Valerie is real about the anger and frustration she felt towards God after her husband’s death. She is also candid about the way Christ continued to reach for her in her doubt and struggle. She discusses the many miracles she saw, especially after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

Through all of the changes of motherhood, one thing has remained constant for Valerie–Jesus Christ has been there for her. As she shared, “He shows up even when we aren’t asking.”

Show Notes

Listen to other Spiritually Minded Mom episodes about the death of a spouse or cancer.

SMM 008: Dealing with Cancer + Motherhood by Focusing on What is Most Important || Julie Monroe

SMM 053: How to Use Agency + Love to Point Children to the Savior || Becky Proudfit

SMM 060: Why You Can Have Joy in the Middle of Hard Things || Stephanie Piacitelli

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SMM 072: Healing + Hope after the Death of a Child|| Erica Kiefer

In 2010, my guest, Erica Kiefer, and her husband experienced the death of their first child, Ty, who was only 4 1/2 months old, to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In the interview, Erica shares how she found healing and hope and turned to God despite the grief.

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Personal + Unique Communication with God

Erica discusses how she used her talent for writing to feel healing and hope as well as the Spirit after Ty’s death. Her experience illustrates well God is a personal God. He can use our gifts and abilities to communicate with us in a unique way.

At one point, Erica felt abandoned by God. She shared the surprising way God helped her through a friend and a Disney movie. She expresses how Heavenly Father can use anything to help us, even an animated Tarzan movie!

How to be an Intuitive Friend

Throughout the interview, Erica mentions “intuitive friends” who were there for her. We discussed what it means to be a nurturing friend to someone who is grieving. Erica noted how helpful friends brought her into their spiritual life.

Healing Miracles

We discuss how Erica found the courage to have another baby and how becoming a mother again (four times) was both healing and fearful at the same time.

Erica talks about how her perspective on miracles has changed since losing her son. She said, “The miracle is just seeing that God lets you go through that journey and helps you to grow but also doesn’t let you do it without giving you the sustenance and the help along the way and so much love.”

Hope When You’re Grieving the Loss of a Child

Erica offers hope to others who are grieving. She knows life can never be the same after losing a child, but she has learned things do get better and healing is possible. “Healing comes in pieces.” It doesn’t happen all at once.

Ultimately, Erica knows God does His part to help her in motherhood. She knows she can turn to Him and He is there.

Show Notes

Listen to other episodes about grief and loss of a child:

SMM 002: Navigating Loss, Special Needs and Fostering as a Young Mom || Alie Jones

SMM 005: Choosing Happiness in Motherhood Despite Grief and Tragedy || Maralyn Nava

SMM 007: Turning to God Through Infertility, Adoption and Miscarriage || Kay West

SMM 013: Overcoming Anger + Showing Faith When Your Motherhood Plan is Not God’s Plan || Misty Trendler

SMM 058: Why Gratitude for Little Things Will Make Your Life Better || Heather Herbert

SMM 060: Why You Can Have Joy in the Middle of Hard Things || Stephanie Piacitelli

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Instagram: @borrowedangel09
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Book: Borrowed Angel

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SMM 071: How to Parent Fearlessly About the Use of Technology || Emily Jones

Listen to my interview with Emily Jones, the co-founder of Family Tech University, a “drivers ed” workshop for wholesome tech use. Emily is also a Deseret Book author, wife, as well as a mother to 5. In addition, she is a passionate believer in the untapped potential of teenagers.

Parent Fearlessly

Emily and I start off discussing our love of teenagers. We both share why we shouldn’t be afraid of their questioning. Emily talks about how we can be heroic parents through parenting fearlessly instead of fearfully. She shares, “Parenting out of fear brings paralysis. It shuts off the Spirit.”

Emily believes the key to heroic parenting is to have a plan to parent fearlessly. Understanding how to navigate greatly diminishes fear.

Love or Fear?

We both share the benefits of parenting with love instead of fear. Motivating through God’s love creates confidence. Children learn to shine their own light, spread the word of God and lift each other up.

Helping Children Develop an Internal Filter

Emily shares how one statement in an April 2014 General Conference talk shaped her perspective on teaching children about tech. The statement by Sister Linda Reeves helped her see the truth of having an internal filter.

Emily discusses how she has studied kids who choose well with technology and the important truth she uncovered through this exercise.

The Benefits of Children Making Mistakes

“Don’t be afraid of our children’s errors. In fact, I would say to expect them. Think of the example of our Heavenly Father. He expected our errors. … He knew that they would come and he made a way through His son. … I think as parents we can take that same posture that we expect that they will make mistakes.”

She compares how we treat a toddler learning to walk to the way we sometimes treat our children when they make a mistake. Emily gives her belief that we can partner with our children and remove the shame and fear.

Helping Children See Their Potential

Emily shares her thoughts on how parents can help children discover what they want for their own future. She believes parents can nurture the potential and vision in their children.

Emily’s biggest message to mothers is this, “Knock, even pound, on the doors of heaven and ask Him, ‘Show me this child’s potential.'” Emily firmly believes with God’s help mothers can remind children of who they are.

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Show Notes

Quote Emily referenced by Sister Linda Reeves: “Filters are useful tools, but the greatest filter in the world, the only one that will ultimately work, is the personal internal filter that comes from a deep and abiding testimony of our Heavenly Father’s love and our Savior’s atoning sacrifice for each one of us.”

View the CBS News video Brain Hacking.

Find out more about having your family participate in Family Tech University.

Get a free video series from Emily and her husband, David, about parenting and tech.

Listen to other episodes about loving children:

Episode 53: How to Use Agency + Love to Point Children to the Savior with Becky Proudfit
Episode 37: How to Create Thoughts to Love Your Children Better with Lisa Funk

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SMM 070: How to be Confident in All Your Decisions as a Mother|| Bonnie Wiscombe

From babies to teenagers, my guest for episode 70, Bonnie Wiscombe, is currently experiencing it all as a mother to nine children. Listen to hear how she has gained confidence in decisions as a mother.

You’ll hear how mothering a large family has helped Bonnie learn to be flexible, let go of expectations and trust God.

Bonnie expresses how she has learned to have confidence in her decisions as both a mother and a business owner. In regard to deciding to home school as well as start a business, she shared, “I think the biggest blessing to me is as the Lord inspires me to do things He really, really gives me a knowledge without any doubt that this is something He is guiding me in because without that, I would just give up. … You realize you are not going to reach your full potential without doing what He has inspired you to do.”

Bonnie and I also discuss comparison in motherhood. In addition, she shares her number one tip for avoiding comparison and having confidence in motherhood.

Overall, Bonnie’s testimony is God has gently guided her to make the hard decisions she has faced in life. She knows He has helped her learn to love her children unconditionally and see them as He sees them.

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Show Notes

Listen to the Cultivate a Good Life podcast episode 23 we referenced in the interview about why doing B- work is OK.

Listen to another episode of SMM featuring a mother of a large family.
Episode 18: Divorce + Blending Families + Coming Back to God in Motherhood || Tarrin Pendergrass

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Business: @NovalieClothing
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SMM 066: The Privilege of Personal Revelation|| JoEllen Woods

My guest today is JoEllen Woods, a wife and mom to four who has spent the last few years following a prompting to move overseas and travel the world with her family.

In the interview, you’ll hear how JoEllen and her husband decided to travel full time with their kids and how they felt guided by God in the process.

Their prompting eventually led JoEllen’s family to New Zealand on a 30-month visa and then to full-time travel for 6 months.

After traveling to 17 different countries, The Woods Family was at a crossroads about what was next. Listen to hear the way Heavenly Father guided them to take a leap and seek for dual citizenship in Italy.

The stories JoEllen shares show over ond over you don’t have to have the full picture to follow God. She is a great example of following a prompting, acting and then asking what the next step is and continuing to move forward.

Overall, JoEllen’s experiences have taught her personal revelation is a privilege. She knows He is by her side and that knowledge gives her the courage and confidence she needs in motherhood and in life.

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Show Notes

Listen to other Spiritually Minded Mom episodes about personal revelation

SMM 041: Only You Can Receive Revelation for Your Motherhood || Michelle Gifford

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