SMM 028: Not Comparing The Way You Love + Owning Your Spiritual Gifts || Tessa Brown

Tessa Brown is my guest today on the podcast. She’s a wife and a mom to two boys ages 2 and 4. She’s also an artist and has a beautiful Instagram account where she shows her incredible talent of artwork depicting motherhood and Jesus Christ. She has learned to embrace the spiritual gifts God has given her and has found a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ as she pleads for help in becoming the mother He wants her to be.

Show Recap

Tessa relates the story of Moana facing the lava monster and how this story helped her in motherhood to know who she is and who God wants her to be. Tessa tells how she found painting early in motherhood to give her a place to focus so she could go back to her family and give more.

Growth Mindset

Tessa has developed a growth mindset about motherhood and shares some doable ways she has developed that mindset in her life.

Her advice to other moms is to figure out what makes you feel love for yourself, for God and for your kids and then to be aware of those things and seek them out. Tessa says to notice the times when you feel love and focus on those things.

Love

For Tessa, what always speaks the loudest in motherhood to her is to just love her children. She knows the only thing that lasts is love. What motivate is love. “Christ makes me feel that I am more than I am. … I want my kids to feel that from me.”

Tessa shares beautifully how she developed a deeper relationship with the Savior. She used to picture Christ standing over her shaking his head as a disappointed coach. Now she views Him as a cheerleader and friend who encourages her throughout her day, no matter what has happened.

Tessa feels it is important not to compare the way you show love to the way another mother shows love. “You have a divine way to love your kids.” Own it.

Artwork

Through her artwork, Tessa hopes mothers will feel love and that they are enough.

“I would love my art to bring mothers back to those moments when love was really all that matters because I feel that really is all that matters. If you do a lot of things wrong, but you get the love part right, I think you and your kids will have a great relationship. That’s what we’re striving for.”

Spiritual Gifts

Throughout the interview, Tessa talked about spiritual gifts and how a mother can use the gifts she’s been given in motherhood.  We had a great discussion about owning your gifts and not being afraid to claim them. Tessa shares a great insight on using what you’ve been given and why don’t have to be “everything” to your kids.

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Show Notes

At the beginning of the episode I shared how YOU can be part of a future episode of the podcast. Each month I will be asking listeners to share their answer to a specific question about motherhood and spirituality. If you want to participate in the November episode, here’s how to do it:

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Instagram: www.instagram.com/tessaleeart/
Website: tessaleeart.com

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SMM 027: Letting Children Have Agency + Building Lasting Family Traditions || Alisse Coil

A few months ago I posted on Instagram asking for ideas on keeping extended families close. Since I’m entering a new phase of motherhood, I wanted to know how I can keep my family close as children start leaving home. So many people responded. I gathered amazing ideas. One of the people who responded was my friend, Alisse Coil. She had great family traditions to share that resonated with many. I invited her on the podcast to talk about how she established her family traditions.

Show Recap

Lean Into Strengths

Alisse is the mother of 5 and had her first four children in a five-year period. Her four oldest children are now grown and she also has 3 grandchildren. Alisse started her motherhood journey thinking she would be “supermom” but quickly learned that doing everything perfectly wasn’t going to work.

Over time, Alisse learned to lean into her own strengths as a mother and not focus on what she wasn’t good at. She said, “I am the whole package, just as me.”

Let Children Have Agency

We had a great discussion about how Alisse learned to let go of control. She learned to let her children use their own agency. She and her husband established “silver bullets” like honesty, open communication, modesty and being kind that they weren’t going to budge on. They left pretty much everything else up to their children to decide for themselves with guidance.

Alisse has seen that giving children the opportunity to use their agency helps build a lasting parent-child relationship. She also believes it’s a big way a mother can show her child love.

Build Lasting Family Traditions

Many of the traditions her family now values started when her kids were very young. They didn’t have much money but they always found ways to serve together. They started a Christmas tradition 20 years ago of hanging a stocking for Jesus at the beginning of December. Family members were invited to place slips of paper in the stocking with kindnesses they had seen during the season written down.  On Christmas Eve they read what everyone has written. This simple tradition has endured for over 20 years and is now being passed on to Alisse’s 3 grandchildren.

You’ll want to listen to the end to hear what Alisse feels we can learn as mothers from Noah’s wife. She said, “For God to truly be my partner, I have to trust in His process.”

To end, Alisse shared this powerful quote: “The power of prayer resides in listening to the Spirit and accepting the words God puts into one’s mind and into one’s mouth. Prayer is more about listening and feeling then it is about speaking and asking.” (Matriarchs of the Messiah by Joann Skousen)

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Show Notes

Follow Alisse:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/alissecoil_essentialliving/

Go here to see the Instagram post where Alisse and many others shared their ideas about keeping extended families close.

Alisse shared this quote during the podcast: “God places a Goliath in our life so we can find our own David.”

To read more about the story of Noah and his wife go to the Bible to Genesis chapters 6, 7, 8 and 9.

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SMM 026: Parenting a Strong Willed Child + Showing Children Their Worth || Lynnette Sheppard

I’m excited to share with you my interview with my Instagram turned real-life friend, Lynnette Sheppard.  She is mostly parenting young adults and teenagers these days, and she has some real life, in the trenches experience parenting a strong willed child. She’s on the other side and has learned to rely on God. Her son has gone from a strong willed 6 year old who spit in her face to a capable, independent 20 year old who is thriving in life.

Show Recap

A key component of the guidance Lynnette felt from God in raising her strong willed son was learning how God viewed her son, how she needed to view him and ultimately, how she could help him see his own worth. She shares how this perspective changed everything for her and her son.

Lynnette and her husband view their children as “adults in training.”  She gives a really practical example of a kid throwing a tantrum for ice cream to illustrate how this long-term perspective guides her in the day-to-day decisions she makes as a mother.

Lynnette believes motherhood is “a marathon and not a sprint.” She gives advice to young mothers to view the hard, mundane years of motherhood with young children as laying a foundation. You won’t see the fruit of your labors until many years down the road, but Lynnette offers hope that all of the effort is worth it.

We also talked about doing what feels right to you in motherhood. “Do what feels right to you, regardless of what everybody else is doing.”

Over her 20+ years of motherhood, Lynnette has seen God at work in her life. She knows Heavenly Father is in the details of our lives. Lynette knows He cares about everything, even the simple things we face.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Lynnette:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/lynnette_simplyforreal/
Facebook: www.facebook.com/simplyforreal/
Website: simplyforreal.com

Sign up for Lynnette’s free email course on raising independent kids by going here.

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SMM 025: Mothering a Child with Mental Illness || Amanda Louder

Today’s topic of raising a child with mental illness is one I have wanted to talk more about for a while. I have reached out to a few people to share their experiences, however it hasn’t been right for them to tell their stories. Fortunately, Amanda Louder answered my prayers by reaching out to me to share her experience raising a child with a mental illness.

Show Recap

Amanda is a wife of 6 years to her husband and together they are blending a family of five children ranging in age from 19-10. In her years as a mother, she has learned to let go of control and enjoys seeing her children learning who they truly are.

Amanda and I dive in and talk about the challenges she has faced since her 16-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Bipolar II at the age of 8. She explains what this diagnosis means and how it affects her daughter and her family in their day-to-day life.

Mental illness and especially a child with mental illness can have a negative stigma in our society. Amanda talks about how the specific things she has done to educate people around her, advocate for her daughter and teach her daughter to advocate for herself.

If you are struggling with a child with mental illness, Amanda gives practical first steps you can take to help your child.

Amanda has been able to turn to God to help her with this mothering challenge. She has found that reading the Book of Mormon everyday has brought her peace. Amanda recognizes that reading the scriptures daily hasn’t taken the challenges away but rather given her the tools she needs to deal with the trials.

She also shares how she has used the atonement of Jesus Christ to help her as a mother. Amanda recognizes the many ways God has guided her, put people in her path and answered her prayers.

At the end of this episode, I have a bonus for you. Amanda talks about what she shares on her own podcast, Live from Love, about marriage, divorce and relationships. Her podcast has great content for anyone but especially for those struggling in marriage.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Amanda:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/amandaloudercoaching/
Website: amandalouder.com
Podcast: Live From Love

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More Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast episodes that deal with mental illness:

Episode 1: Welcome to the Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast (My story of helping my son who was diagnosed with anxiety.)
Episode 10: Being Open About Mental Illness in Motherhood + When You Don’t Know if God is Your Partner || Ally Hayward

SMM 024: Letting Go of Expectations + Being Intentional in Motherhood || Crystalee Beck

If I could use one word to sum up this week’s podcast guest, Crystalee Beck’s, approach to motherhood it would be “intentional.”   From starting her day with what she calls her “3 Bs”–body, babies and business to regularly taking her kids on hikes to teach them about God and his creations, Crystalee strives to be intentional about everything she does in motherhood.

Crystalee is happily married, and a mama to two cute kids (and one on the way!).  She and her husband just celebrated their 8th anniversary. Crystalee believes in embracing motherhood in her own way. She is passionate about helping moms balance entrepreneurship and motherhood through her business, The Mama Ladder.

Show Recap

Crystalee learned early in motherhood to let go of the expectations of others and instead figure out what motherhood looks like for her. The struggle has helped her learn to appreciate the sacred and special role of being a mother.

She tells moms who feel weighed down with worrying about what others’ think of their parenting  to remember God. She said, “He’s got our back, so feel good about yourself.”

Crystalee has learned to be intentional and embrace motherhood in her own way by “living at the intersection of motherhood + entrepreneurship.” One of the ways she accomplishes this is by creating “systems” not only for her business but also for her life as a mom. She takes anything she does more than once in any area of life and makes it into a documented process.

I loved the simple but profound quote by Russell M. Nelson that Crystalee shared: “Love them, lead them and let them go.” She is grateful for the relationship she has with God as a mother and appreciates the way He has both “guided and chided” her in being the mother He wants her to be.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

Follow Crystalee:

Instagram: instagram.com/themamaladder/
Facebook: facebook.com/themamaladder/
Twitter: twitter.com/themamaladder/
Website: themamaladder.com

To read the full talk the quote by Russell M. Nelson is taken from, go here.

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