SMM 073: Widowhood + Cancer With a Focus on Jesus||Valerie Cuevas

Valerie Cuevas has maintained her focus on Jesus despite the many ups and downs she has experienced in her life.

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After being a pseudo-single mother with a husband going through medical residency, Valerie suddenly found herself facing her husband’s terminal illness and death.

She was diagnosed with breast cancer, her second time battling the disease, just six months after her husband’s passing. Valerie is now remarried and blending a family of six children. She continues to see her role as a mother shifting and changing.

Valerie tells how she has learned to embrace change and let go of expectations.

She talks about how her focus on Jesus helped her as a single mother. Even though she couldn’t always pinpoint the ways He was helping her, she knew He was there.

Valerie is real about the anger and frustration she felt towards God after her husband’s death. She is also candid about the way Christ continued to reach for her in her doubt and struggle. She discusses the many miracles she saw, especially after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

Through all of the changes of motherhood, one thing has remained constant for Valerie–Jesus Christ has been there for her. As she shared, “He shows up even when we aren’t asking.”

Show Notes

Listen to other Spiritually Minded Mom episodes about the death of a spouse or cancer.

SMM 008: Dealing with Cancer + Motherhood by Focusing on What is Most Important || Julie Monroe

SMM 053: How to Use Agency + Love to Point Children to the Savior || Becky Proudfit

SMM 060: Why You Can Have Joy in the Middle of Hard Things || Stephanie Piacitelli

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Instagram: @seekinggraceandtruth

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SMM 072: Healing + Hope after the Death of a Child|| Erica Kiefer

In 2010, my guest, Erica Kiefer, and her husband experienced the death of their first child, Ty, who was only 4 1/2 months old, to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In the interview, Erica shares how she found healing and hope and turned to God despite the grief.

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Personal + Unique Communication with God

Erica discusses how she used her talent for writing to feel healing and hope as well as the Spirit after Ty’s death. Her experience illustrates well God is a personal God. He can use our gifts and abilities to communicate with us in a unique way.

At one point, Erica felt abandoned by God. She shared the surprising way God helped her through a friend and a Disney movie. She expresses how Heavenly Father can use anything to help us, even an animated Tarzan movie!

How to be an Intuitive Friend

Throughout the interview, Erica mentions “intuitive friends” who were there for her. We discussed what it means to be a nurturing friend to someone who is grieving. Erica noted how helpful friends brought her into their spiritual life.

Healing Miracles

We discuss how Erica found the courage to have another baby and how becoming a mother again (four times) was both healing and fearful at the same time.

Erica talks about how her perspective on miracles has changed since losing her son. She said, “The miracle is just seeing that God lets you go through that journey and helps you to grow but also doesn’t let you do it without giving you the sustenance and the help along the way and so much love.”

Hope When You’re Grieving the Loss of a Child

Erica offers hope to others who are grieving. She knows life can never be the same after losing a child, but she has learned things do get better and healing is possible. “Healing comes in pieces.” It doesn’t happen all at once.

Ultimately, Erica knows God does His part to help her in motherhood. She knows she can turn to Him and He is there.

Show Notes

Listen to other episodes about grief and loss of a child:

SMM 002: Navigating Loss, Special Needs and Fostering as a Young Mom || Alie Jones

SMM 005: Choosing Happiness in Motherhood Despite Grief and Tragedy || Maralyn Nava

SMM 007: Turning to God Through Infertility, Adoption and Miscarriage || Kay West

SMM 013: Overcoming Anger + Showing Faith When Your Motherhood Plan is Not God’s Plan || Misty Trendler

SMM 058: Why Gratitude for Little Things Will Make Your Life Better || Heather Herbert

SMM 060: Why You Can Have Joy in the Middle of Hard Things || Stephanie Piacitelli

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Instagram: @borrowedangel09
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Website: ericakieferbooks.com
Book: Borrowed Angel

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SMM 070: How to be Confident in All Your Decisions as a Mother|| Bonnie Wiscombe

From babies to teenagers, my guest for episode 70, Bonnie Wiscombe, is currently experiencing it all as a mother to nine children. Listen to hear how she has gained confidence in decisions as a mother.

You’ll hear how mothering a large family has helped Bonnie learn to be flexible, let go of expectations and trust God.

Bonnie expresses how she has learned to have confidence in her decisions as both a mother and a business owner. In regard to deciding to home school as well as start a business, she shared, “I think the biggest blessing to me is as the Lord inspires me to do things He really, really gives me a knowledge without any doubt that this is something He is guiding me in because without that, I would just give up. … You realize you are not going to reach your full potential without doing what He has inspired you to do.”

Bonnie and I also discuss comparison in motherhood. In addition, she shares her number one tip for avoiding comparison and having confidence in motherhood.

Overall, Bonnie’s testimony is God has gently guided her to make the hard decisions she has faced in life. She knows He has helped her learn to love her children unconditionally and see them as He sees them.

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Show Notes

Listen to the Cultivate a Good Life podcast episode 23 we referenced in the interview about why doing B- work is OK.

Listen to another episode of SMM featuring a mother of a large family.
Episode 18: Divorce + Blending Families + Coming Back to God in Motherhood || Tarrin Pendergrass

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Instagram: @bonnieandblithe
Business: @NovalieClothing
Podcast: Outnumbered the Podcast

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SMM 069: When You Pray in Faith and It Still Rains || Darla Trendler

Have you ever prayed for something with so much faith and diligence, and then, the exact opposite of what you were praying for happens?

I have.

In episode 69, I’m sharing an experience from my life where I prayed for God to “temper the elements” and then it rained and not just a little drizzle but torrential downpour.

You’ll hear the lessons I learned from this experience and how it increased my faith Heavenly Father does answer my prayers, even if it’s not always in the way I think He should.

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Show Notes

D&C 90:24 – Search diligently, pray always, and be believing, and all things shall work together for your good, if ye walk uprightly and remember the covenant wherewith ye have covenanted one with another.

Other Solo Episodes

Episode 20: What I’m Learning about Following the Spirit + Making Connections in Ministering
Episode 61: How to Eliminate Distraction + Always Have the Spirit
Episode 64: Why You Might Not Know When You are Feeling the Spirit

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SMM 068: Taking Responsibility for Your Own Spirituality|| Miranda Anderson

A few months ago, I discovered Miranda Anderson through an interview on another podcast. I loved her positive approach to life and immediately binged episodes from her own podcast, Live Free Creative, and read her book, More Than Enough. I was thrilled when she agreed to be a guest on my podcast.

Living the Life you Want

In the episode, you’ll hear Miranda discuss how she learned to live the life she wanted. She shares key elements she has learned of contentment and gratitude as well as setting aside the message we are lacking in some way.

Miranda shared, “Today is the day that I want. The things that I have right now are the things that I want.”

A Year of No Spending

While attending a conference, Miranda heard these words, “You can do more of what you like and less of what you don’t like.” She went home with a new perspective that ultimately led her family to an experiment of no spending for a year.

Miranda realized she was in control of her life and she didn’t have to do what she had always done. She talks about the lessons her family learned from the experiment and how their takeaways were external as well as internal.

Overall, Miranda learned there is always something in your life that is good that you can be grateful for.

Creating Space

I loved discussing with Miranda how we can be responsible for our own spirituality. Miranda said, “It’s a lot more difficult to take full responsibility for our spirituality but it also makes it a lot more personal.”

Miranda also discusses how she has learned to create space in her life to do as the song says–search, ponder and pray.

She points to the example set by Christ when He took time to be away and “be.” Miranda believes “being” is as important as the “busy” things we do in the Gospel.

No Checklists in Spirituality

I was grateful to get to discuss a topic that has been on my mind a lot lately–there are no checklists with spirituality. Miranda pointed out that the shift in the church to a more home-centered approach is helping us to rely less on the structure and organization and be able to discover for ourselves what we need as spiritual beings.

Partner with God in Motherhood

Miranda talked about knowing who she is and how her divine identity translates to her role as a mother and in her relationship with God. She understands why she doesn’t have to be everything for her children. “My job is to get to know the divine beings that they already are and we learn together.”

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Website: livefreecreative.co
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Book: More Than Enough

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