SMM 053: How to Use Agency + Love to Point Children to the Savior || Becky Proudfit

Today I’m welcoming Becky Proudfit to the podcast for episode 53. You may know her as one half of Becky squared where she cohosts the podcast Cultivate a Good Life with Becky Higgins. She is also a former Disney Princess, a wife and a mom to four, a lover of travel and a cancer survivor.

In this episode you will hear Becky remind moms that motherhood is “not about you.” She shares why she thinks motherhood is not about her but about loving her children and giving them agency.

Becky and I discuss not tying spiritual things to merely being obedient to parents. Rather, Becky believes in teaching children to obey out of love for Heavenly Father and the Savior.

We also talk about teaching children spiritual self-sufficiency so they can rely on the Savior as a perfect friend.

Becky frequently uses opposites, also a pattern found in the scriptures, to teach her children. She doesn’t shy away from talking about Satan and his counterfeits. She views times when Satan is working on you as evidence that you are doing something right.

Becky gives advice to moms whose children have used their agency to choose different paths. She also shares an easy and practical way any mom can know how God feels about her and recognize how He is showing up in her life.

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Show Notes

This is the quote by President Russell M. Nelson Becky referenced about spiritual survival. “In coming days, it will not be possible to survive spiritually without the guiding, directing, comforting, and constant influence of the Holy Ghost.”

Go HERE to read Elder Uctdorf’s talk, A Matter of a Few Degrees

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SMM 050: How Promptings From God Can Be Hard + Good At The Same Time||Rachel Nielson

Episode 50! I can’t believe I am even typing that and I am so honored to share my interview with Rachel Nielson for this milestone episode.

Rachel is married to Ryan and they have two children, Noah, who is adopted and Sally, who was conceived through IVF. If you’re not familiar with Rachel, you will immediately see she is both down to earth and relatable.

She is also the host of  The 3in30 Podcast for moms. She interviews guests on a variety of motherhood topics and shares 3 doable takeaways every week.

When I edit an interview, I generally jot down notes as I edit and look for themes of the interview.

I looked at the notes I took for Rachel’s interview and realized I had found three main themes. As a nod to Rachel’s amazing podcast, here are three doable takeaways I found from this interview.

Number 1: “Just because God prompts you to continue with something, does not mean it is going to work out the way you want it to.”

Number 2: Whom the Lord calls, he qualifies.

Number 3: All things work together for good to them that love God. (Romans 8:28)

Rachel’s motherhood story illustrates beautifully both the joys and sorrows of motherhood. More importantly, Rachel’s journey teaches how trusting in God’s timing can bring us way more than we ever imagined.

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Show Notes

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Read more about the parable of the currant bush Rachel referenced.

The scripture Rachel referenced about all things working together for good for those who love God can be found in Romans 8:28.

Read Rachel’s own words about her experiences in adoption by going HERE and HERE.

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SMM 040: How Simple + Consistent Gospel Teaching Can Unleash The Power of Families

Episode 40 is an episode where listeners called in to share their insights about how they are using the Come Follow Me curriculum in their homes. The women who called in all share different approaches to using the new curriculum. Ultimately, they all emphasize how simple and consistent gospel teaching is blessing their families.

Do What Works For Your Family

I love how each person’s response was a little different but all had the same overarching theme of the blessings of teaching their families the gospel. They all are following the promptings they have received and are doing what works for their family.

I hope hearing what others are doing and how they are implementing Come Follow Me will not cause you to compare. Hopefully, this episode will inspire you to listen to the Holy Ghost and then do what you feel prompted to do for your family.

Seek The Holy Ghost as a Guide

I love this quote found on the first page of the Come Follow Me manual for individuals and families:

…in our efforts to live, learn, and teach the gospel, we should first and foremost seek the companionship of the Spirit. This goal should govern our choices and guide our thoughts and actions. We should seek after whatever invites the influence of the Spirit and reject whatever drives that influence away–for we know that if we can be worthy of the presence of the Holy Ghost, we can also be worthy to live in the presence of Heavenly Father and His son, Jesus Christ.

Conversion is our goal and the way to do that is to use the Holy Ghost as a guide. If you feel an impression to present a lesson or teach something a certain way, do it. Even if it’s not what someone else is doing.


The gospel of Jesus Christ is simple. One person who commented on my post on Instagram about Come Follow Me pointed out the phrase in the hymn Come Follow Me: “Come follow me, a simple phrase.” I love that. Keep it simple and let the Spirit guide you.


Consistency is a key element of teaching in the home. In the episode, I referenced a talk by Elder David A Bednar from October 2009 called More Diligent and Concerned at Home. In this talk Elder Bednar shared the struggles his own family faced to hold family prayer, family home evening and scripture study. I love what he said about consistency:

Sister Bednar and I thought helping our sons understand the content of a particular lesson or a specific scripture was the ultimate outcome. But such a result does not occur each time we study or pray or learn together. The consistency of our intent and work was perhaps the greatest lesson—a lesson we did not fully appreciate at the time.

Listener Insights

Here’s a recap of what the four listeners said:


  • Increased comprehension
  • Repetition and repeating things
  • Use Christian resources
  • Use Bible videos and other lesson helps on
  • Slow down and get to the heart


  • Find a time that works for your family
  • Less actual scripture reading and more discussion about what was read
  • Let children talk the most
  • Come Follow Me is about connection
  • Likening what we learn to ourselves
  • Teenagers will open up


  • Uses a bookmark she makes to break up the weekly, personal study
  • For older children: shares what she is learning during the week in her personal study by emailing talks and articles
  • For younger children: uses the primary manual
  • Not adding or supplementing except through church sources


  • Keep it simple with coloring, walks, etc.
  • Talk as a family
  • Ask questions
  • Have a conversation at children’s level of understanding
  • Pray specifically for the blessings promised by President Russell M. Nelson in this quote:

The new home-centered, Church-supported integrated curriculum has the potential to unleash the power of families, as each family follows through conscientiously and carefully to transform their home into a sanctuary of faith. I promise that as you diligently work to remodel your home into a center of gospel learning, over time your Sabbath days will truly be a delight. Your children will be excited to learn and to live the Savior’s teachings, and the influence of the adversary in your life and in your home will decrease. Changes in your family will be dramatic and sustaining.

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Show Notes

Conference talks about Simple + Consistent Gospel Teaching

Elder David A. Bednar’s talk More Diligent and Concern at Home

President Russel M. Nelson’s Talk Becoming Exemplary Latter-day Saints

Elder Steven R. Bangerter’s Talk Laying the Foundation of a Great Work

Elder Dieter F. Utchtdorf’s talk It Works Wonderfully!

Spiritually Minded Mom Instagram post about Come Follow Me


Other Episodes with Listener Insights

SMM 031: How Have YOU Seen + Felt God as Your Partner in Motherhood?

SMM 036: End of Season 1 + Share How Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast Has Helped You

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