SMM 034: Why I Am Grateful For the Hardest Time in My Life || Darla Trendler

Over the past several weeks, I have felt prompted over and over to share more of my own story of growing closer to God and learning how to rely on Him. What I am sharing in this episode is the hardest time I have experienced in my life. It revolves around a lengthy trial that went on for years and hasn’t totally ended.

Share Your Story

I always hesitate to share about hardships I have experienced. I know so many who have gone through so much more than I have. However, as I learned from Danelle Beckstrand in episode 19 of the podcast: “Pain is pain and hurt is hurt,” and “Humanity is connected through trial.”

I am learning there is power in being vulnerable and sharing our story and ultimately, part of ourselves. My trials are not the same as yours, however sharing what we learned and how we were blessed during our hardest times allows us to help each other.

Lessons Learned

In the episode, I share some of the lessons I learned during this difficult time including:

  • How God is aware of me and my family in big and little things.
  • “If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.” (Stephen R. Covey)
  • Why I have to act for the Lord to help me.
  • Turning my trials over to God and not relying solely on myself is possible.

Trial Helps Us Grow

After I recorded this episode, I found this quote by Orson F. Whitney, an early apostle of the church, that describes what I have experienced.

“No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God … and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tribulation, that we gain the education that we come here to acquire.”

I don’t know completely why I have felt prompted to share this. It’s probably more for me than anyone else. However, I hope you will find something from this episode that will help . If anything, I hope you will be able to reflect on the the lessons you have learned as well as the blessings you have received from the hardest time in your life.

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Show Notes

At the end of the episode I mentioned the workbook you can download called Five Ways to Become a More Spiritually Minded Mom. Get access to the workbook by clicking HERE.

You can also listen to Episode 12 to hear more about the challenge.

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SMM 025: Mothering a Child with Mental Illness || Amanda Louder

Today’s topic of raising a child with mental illness is one I have wanted to talk more about for a while. I have reached out to a few people to share their experiences, however it hasn’t been right for them to tell their stories. Fortunately, Amanda Louder answered my prayers by reaching out to me to share her experience raising a child with a mental illness.

Show Recap

Amanda is a wife of 6 years to her husband and together they are blending a family of five children ranging in age from 19-10. In her years as a mother, she has learned to let go of control and enjoys seeing her children learning who they truly are.

Amanda and I dive in and talk about the challenges she has faced since her 16-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Bipolar II at the age of 8. She explains what this diagnosis means and how it affects her daughter and her family in their day-to-day life.

Mental illness and especially a child with mental illness can have a negative stigma in our society. Amanda talks about how the specific things she has done to educate people around her, advocate for her daughter and teach her daughter to advocate for herself.

If you are struggling with a child with mental illness, Amanda gives practical first steps you can take to help your child.

Amanda has been able to turn to God to help her with this mothering challenge. She has found that reading the Book of Mormon everyday has brought her peace. Amanda recognizes that reading the scriptures daily hasn’t taken the challenges away but rather given her the tools she needs to deal with the trials.

She also shares how she has used the atonement of Jesus Christ to help her as a mother. Amanda recognizes the many ways God has guided her, put people in her path and answered her prayers.

At the end of this episode, I have a bonus for you. Amanda talks about what she shares on her own podcast, Live from Love, about marriage, divorce and relationships. Her podcast has great content for anyone but especially for those struggling in marriage.

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Show Notes

Follow Amanda:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/amandaloudercoaching/
Website: amandalouder.com
Podcast: Live From Love

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More Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast episodes that deal with mental illness:

Episode 1: Welcome to the Spiritually Minded Mom Podcast (My story of helping my son who was diagnosed with anxiety.)
Episode 10: Being Open About Mental Illness in Motherhood + When You Don’t Know if God is Your Partner || Ally Hayward

SMM 024: Letting Go of Expectations + Being Intentional in Motherhood || Crystalee Beck

If I could use one word to sum up this week’s podcast guest, Crystalee Beck’s, approach to motherhood it would be “intentional.”   From starting her day with what she calls her “3 Bs”–body, babies and business to regularly taking her kids on hikes to teach them about God and his creations, Crystalee strives to be intentional about everything she does in motherhood.

Crystalee is happily married, and a mama to two cute kids (and one on the way!).  She and her husband just celebrated their 8th anniversary. Crystalee believes in embracing motherhood in her own way. She is passionate about helping moms balance entrepreneurship and motherhood through her business, The Mama Ladder.

Show Recap

Crystalee learned early in motherhood to let go of the expectations of others and instead figure out what motherhood looks like for her. The struggle has helped her learn to appreciate the sacred and special role of being a mother.

She tells moms who feel weighed down with worrying about what others’ think of their parenting  to remember God. She said, “He’s got our back, so feel good about yourself.”

Crystalee has learned to be intentional and embrace motherhood in her own way by “living at the intersection of motherhood + entrepreneurship.” One of the ways she accomplishes this is by creating “systems” not only for her business but also for her life as a mom. She takes anything she does more than once in any area of life and makes it into a documented process.

I loved the simple but profound quote by Russell M. Nelson that Crystalee shared: “Love them, lead them and let them go.” She is grateful for the relationship she has with God as a mother and appreciates the way He has both “guided and chided” her in being the mother He wants her to be.

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Show Notes

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Twitter: twitter.com/themamaladder/
Website: themamaladder.com

To read the full talk the quote by Russell M. Nelson is taken from, go here.

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SMM 023: Overcoming Weaknesses + Using Humor in Motherhood || Cheryl Cardall

 Cheryl Cardall is my guest for episode 23. She has been married to her husband for 22 years and is the mother of 4 boys and 1 girl ranging in age from 8-19. Cheryl dreamed of being a mom since she was a little girl, so she was a little surprised in the beginning by how hard motherhood can be. After 19 years Cheryl has learned to embrace the challenges, hold onto the joys and use humor in motherhood. She is passionate about strengthening homes and encouraging moms through her instagram account @supermamas4real.

Tune into the episode to hear Cheryl’s perspectives on letting go of trying to control her kids and utilizing motherhood as a refining process.

You’ll hear about Cheryl’s “secret weapon” of motherhood.  Hint: it involves Cheryl in a bathing suit going down a waterslide!

We also discuss how she parents each of her children as individuals. Cheryl talks about getting through hard days by sticking to simple, daily habits that fill her up, so she can better serve her family.  In addition, Cheryl shares the things she has learned from parenting a “spirited child” and also gives some practical resources.

Ultimately, Cheryl views her children as being “on loan” from God. She relies on Him on a daily basis to help her know her childrens’ needs as well as how to best love them.

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Show Notes

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Instagram: www.instagram.com/supermamas4real/

Cheryl talked about this quote by Marjorie Hinckley: “The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache.”

Go here to learn more about the book Cheryl referenced: Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.

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SMM 020: What I’m Learning About Following the Spirit + Making Connections in Ministering

Welcome to the 20th episode of the Spiritually Minded Mom podcast. Today’s episode is not the usual interview format. Instead, I recorded a solo episode  sharing some of my thoughts about something “spiritually minded” that’s been on my mind a lot lately–ministering.

In the first half of the episode, I share clips of three previous episodes with Alie Jones (episode 2), Julie Monroe (episode 8) and Noralee Jones (episode 17) that illustrate how these guests have received help from those around them. One of the best things all the guests I have interviewed have taught me is how to better serve others.

And that brings us to ministering. The second half of this episode is my real thoughts about the call we received in my church to step it up in how we serve others and to truly follow the example of Jesus Christ by ministering.  I don’t sugar coat my feelings and experiences. Learning to minister has been hard for me, so you’ll hear my struggles.  I have a long way to go, but I also share what I’ve learned so far.

Ministering is not one-size-fits-all. We can each come to know what ministering looks like for us as individuals as we seek God’s Spirit and ask Him for guidance.

How to Listen

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Show Notes

I mentioned scripture cards I purchased to give away. The cards are from Courtney Casper and you can find them in her shop here.

If you would like to listen to the full episodes of the clips played during this episode, here are the links:

SMM 002: Navigating Loss, Special Needs and Fostering as a Young Mom || Alie Jones
SMM 008: Dealing with Cancer + Motherhood By Focusing on What is Most Important || Julie Monroe
SMM 017: Life as a Military Family + Appreciating Motherhood After Infertility + Trusting God’s Timing || Noralee Jones

To learn more about ministering and what members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are being asked to do, read the following talks:

Ministering by President Russell M. Nelson
Be With and Strengthen Them by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
Ministering as the Savior Does by Sister Jean B. Bingham

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