SMM 059: How to Be the Expert +Advocate for Your Child||Cheryl Cardall

I first interviewed Cheryl Cardall in episode 23 about overcoming weakness and using humor in motherhood. Cheryl is back and we are diving in to talk about what Cheryl has learned in 20 years of motherhood. You’ll also hear why Cheryl believes you should be the expert and advocate for your child.

Cheryl talks about a recent moment when she realized she was doing better as a mom than she thought she was. She shares how motherhood refines us and makes us better. Cheryl believes you can do more than just survive in motherhood. You can thrive.

We also have a discussion about why a mother’s worth isn’t determined by what her kids do. Cheryl has learned to be good with herself no matter what her kids do. “Their behavior has no reflection on me.”

Cheryl also discusses her recent experiences learning how to be an expert and advocate for one of her children struggling with mental health issues.

Recently, both Cheryl and her husband were prompted to get a dog for their family. She talks about how they trusted this prompting and how having a dog has been a huge blessing for their whole family. Her story illustrates so well that God cares about everything in our lives and why you can trust and act on the promptings you get.

Cheryl has seen and felt God the most when she has felt she isn’t enough. She discusses how a common answer from God for her has been to “Love them through it.”

“Motherhood is the perfect way to learn about the atonement. We are not enough on our own but when we use God and our Savior as our partner, somehow we are.”

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Show Notes

Here is the quote Cheryl shared by Dr. Christina Hibbert: “The fruit of motherhood isn’t how your kids turn out. It’s how you turn out.”

See the Instagram post by @reflectionsofchrist about the parenting advice to repent fast and frequently I mentioned in the episode. (I think I said it was about forgiveness in the episode, but it’s about repentance.)

This is the quote Cheryl shared by Janet Lansbury: “It can be really tough to remember how emotionally immature children are because they can be so impressively intelligent, capable, and aware. When they seem deliberately bratty or downright mean, we’ll need to remind ourselves: These are tiny people with incredibly low impulse control who are very easily overwhelmed. In the moment, it may feel like our kids are out to get us, but it is actually that their impulses have gotten the better of them.”

Books Cheryl recommends:
The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Dan Siegel
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults by Frances E. Jensen

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SMM 050: How Promptings From God Can Be Hard + Good At The Same Time||Rachel Nielson

Episode 50! I can’t believe I am even typing that and I am so honored to share my interview with Rachel Nielson for this milestone episode.

Rachel is married to Ryan and they have two children, Noah, who is adopted and Sally, who was conceived through IVF. If you’re not familiar with Rachel, you will immediately see she is both down to earth and relatable.

She is also the host of  The 3in30 Podcast for moms. She interviews guests on a variety of motherhood topics and shares 3 doable takeaways every week.

When I edit an interview, I generally jot down notes as I edit and look for themes of the interview.

I looked at the notes I took for Rachel’s interview and realized I had found three main themes. As a nod to Rachel’s amazing podcast, here are three doable takeaways I found from this interview.

Number 1: “Just because God prompts you to continue with something, does not mean it is going to work out the way you want it to.”

Number 2: Whom the Lord calls, he qualifies.

Number 3: All things work together for good to them that love God. (Romans 8:28)

Rachel’s motherhood story illustrates beautifully both the joys and sorrows of motherhood. More importantly, Rachel’s journey teaches how trusting in God’s timing can bring us way more than we ever imagined.

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Show Notes

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Read more about the parable of the currant bush Rachel referenced.

The scripture Rachel referenced about all things working together for good for those who love God can be found in Romans 8:28.

Read Rachel’s own words about her experiences in adoption by going HERE and HERE.

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