SMM 059: How to Be the Expert +Advocate for Your Child||Cheryl Cardall

I first interviewed Cheryl Cardall in episode 23 about overcoming weakness and using humor in motherhood. Cheryl is back and we are diving in to talk about what Cheryl has learned in 20 years of motherhood. You’ll also hear why Cheryl believes you should be the expert and advocate for your child.

Cheryl talks about a recent moment when she realized she was doing better as a mom than she thought she was. She shares how motherhood refines us and makes us better. Cheryl believes you can do more than just survive in motherhood. You can thrive.

We also have a discussion about why a mother’s worth isn’t determined by what her kids do. Cheryl has learned to be good with herself no matter what her kids do. “Their behavior has no reflection on me.”

Cheryl also discusses her recent experiences learning how to be an expert and advocate for one of her children struggling with mental health issues.

Recently, both Cheryl and her husband were prompted to get a dog for their family. She talks about how they trusted this prompting and how having a dog has been a huge blessing for their whole family. Her story illustrates so well that God cares about everything in our lives and why you can trust and act on the promptings you get.

Cheryl has seen and felt God the most when she has felt she isn’t enough. She discusses how a common answer from God for her has been to “Love them through it.”

“Motherhood is the perfect way to learn about the atonement. We are not enough on our own but when we use God and our Savior as our partner, somehow we are.”

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Show Notes

Here is the quote Cheryl shared by Dr. Christina Hibbert: “The fruit of motherhood isn’t how your kids turn out. It’s how you turn out.”

See the Instagram post by @reflectionsofchrist about the parenting advice to repent fast and frequently I mentioned in the episode. (I think I said it was about forgiveness in the episode, but it’s about repentance.)

This is the quote Cheryl shared by Janet Lansbury: “It can be really tough to remember how emotionally immature children are because they can be so impressively intelligent, capable, and aware. When they seem deliberately bratty or downright mean, we’ll need to remind ourselves: These are tiny people with incredibly low impulse control who are very easily overwhelmed. In the moment, it may feel like our kids are out to get us, but it is actually that their impulses have gotten the better of them.”

Books Cheryl recommends:
The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Dan Siegel
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults by Frances E. Jensen

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SMM 055: How to Find Answers from a Position of Faith + Know Christ is a Champion of Women || Bergen Hyde

I am happy to welcome Bergen Hyde to the podcast. Bergen is the co-founder and creative director of WOMB, which you’ll more about in the interview. Bergen is married and has 3 children. Her number one passion is women’s issues, especially within the context of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and she loves helping other women claim their power.

In the interview, Bergen shares three amazing lessons she has learned in motherhood.

Lesson 1: I’m happier and more fulfilled when I am an agent in my own life.

Bergen shares about how she came to know that motherhood was a choice she was making and how she realized she could choose something different. I loved her thoughts about how choosing from a whole place and with God’s guidance helps things work out.

Lesson 2: I can engage the Lord in hard questions from a position of faith.

If you are struggling or have ever struggled with questions about God, you will want to hear what Bergen has to say. She believes when we ask questions from a position of faith and find answers, we can help to make changes. She asks questions with the assumption she has heavenly parents who love her. Our discussion also addressed dealing with feelings of not receiving answers from God.

Lesson 3: Christ is a champion of women.

Bergen shared her own story of letting go of the darkness she felt inside. She talks about how she learned to feel the feelings and let them out but how she still did not feel whole.

She shares her experience of filling the hole she felt inside by turning to Christ.

No matter what wounds we have. No matter how dark. No matter how deep, Christ can heal them. … Christ is the only one who can fully heal those things for us. … His arms were always stretched out to me.

Bergen Hyde

Bergen’s story illustrates so well that learning to come to the Savior is a process. Her story gives hope to anyone who is struggling.

This episode also emphasizes how sharing our stories helps us remember we are not alone and offers hope. Bergen encourages other women to create the conversations they wish were happening.

Ultimately, Bergen shares how she knows the Savior “softens everything and sweetens everything and makes things holy.”

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Show Notes

Womb Sisters is holding a retreat on June 8th. You can go HERE to find the details.

Bergen and I will both be speaking at the upcoming SALT Gathering in Salt Lake City on September 14th. You can get details and buy your ticket HERE. Use the code “Darla10” for $10 off.

You can go HERE to listen to my interview with the creator of the SALT Gathering, Elise Curtis.

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SMM 052: How to Really Define Success in Motherhood||Chantel Allen

My guest for episode 52 is Chantel Allen. Chantel is a mom, a wife and also a certified life coach. She is passionate about offering encouragement, to others through her coaching and podcast, Find Your Beautiful You. Through her training and personal experiences, Chantel has learned the true definition of success in motherhood.

Listen to hear Chantel’s insights on how you can benefit from changing your thoughts. She gives a great exercise you can use to figure out what is going on inside your brain.

Chantel talks about the lessons she learned from experiencing unexplained seizures as well as having a son dealing with anxiety. Her story illustrates so well how God is aware of us. Chantel’s experiences show how God weaves our experiences together for our good.

Finally, you’ll hear how to really define success in motherhood. Guess what? Success has nothing to do with your kids. Chantel shares how she has learned to show up in motherhood as her best self as well as not tie her worth to her kids’ behavior.

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Show Notes

Find out more about Jody Moore.

Get a free thought download worksheet to help you do a thought download, and then answer questions on the thought download to help you evaluate your thoughts. 

Hear Chantel talk more about thought downloads and the “Marie Kondo Effect” on episode 11 of her podcast, Find Your Beautiful You.

Here more Spiritually Minded Mom episodes that discuss thoughts.

Episode 14: How to How to Recognize God in Simple Ways + Battle Loneliness and Negative Thoughts || Michelle Garfield

Episode 37: How to Create Thoughts to Love Your Children Better || Lisa Funk

Episode 47: Finding Beauty in the Hard of Motherhood || Melinda Peterson

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SMM 050: How Promptings From God Can Be Hard + Good At The Same Time||Rachel Nielson

Episode 50! I can’t believe I am even typing that and I am so honored to share my interview with Rachel Nielson for this milestone episode.

Rachel is married to Ryan and they have two children, Noah, who is adopted and Sally, who was conceived through IVF. If you’re not familiar with Rachel, you will immediately see she is both down to earth and relatable.

She is also the host of  The 3in30 Podcast for moms. She interviews guests on a variety of motherhood topics and shares 3 doable takeaways every week.

When I edit an interview, I generally jot down notes as I edit and look for themes of the interview.

I looked at the notes I took for Rachel’s interview and realized I had found three main themes. As a nod to Rachel’s amazing podcast, here are three doable takeaways I found from this interview.

Number 1: “Just because God prompts you to continue with something, does not mean it is going to work out the way you want it to.”

Number 2: Whom the Lord calls, he qualifies.

Number 3: All things work together for good to them that love God. (Romans 8:28)

Rachel’s motherhood story illustrates beautifully both the joys and sorrows of motherhood. More importantly, Rachel’s journey teaches how trusting in God’s timing can bring us way more than we ever imagined.

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Show Notes

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Read more about the parable of the currant bush Rachel referenced.

The scripture Rachel referenced about all things working together for good for those who love God can be found in Romans 8:28.

Read Rachel’s own words about her experiences in adoption by going HERE and HERE.

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SMM 048: Faith and Hope in God’s Promise to Not Leave Us Comfortless || Brittany Frank

My guest today is Brittany Frank. Brittany is a wife to her husband, Trevor, and mom to a cute one-year-old little boy. When Brittany was a junior in college and competing as a track and cross country athlete, she was involved in a rappelling accident that left her with a spinal cord injury.

In the interview, Brittany shares about her accident and how she dealt with her recovery. She explains how she felt so much hope from God from the very beginning. She also shares how she dealt with the difficult periods when the reality of her injury and the lifelong consequences started to sink in.

She shared a beautiful scripture found in John 14:18: I will not leave you comfortless. Brittany explains that although she felt alone at times, she knows that feeling was necessary for her to understand the atonement of Jesus Christ and begin to heal.

Before having her son, Brittany didn’t know exactly how she would care for him but has learned through trial and error. Brittany talks about the practical ways she has had to modify everyday tasks in motherhood and how she makes it all work. She had a hard time finding resources on mothering with a spinal cord injury and now actively shares her experiences on her instagram account hoping to inspire and help others.

“Being present is being productive” is Brittany’s motherhood philosophy and she shares what this means for her and how she implements it in her life as a mother.

Brittany talks about a beautiful message she hopes to share with her son as he grows up. Overall, she has amazing faith and trust in following the promptings God gives her, even when they don’t make sense in a worldly view.

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Show Notes

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Website: brittanyannefisher.blogspot.com

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